“by as much as 3000%.” Did I mishear him or did I misunderstand something in 8th grade mathematics?
But that’s what he said about employer provided health care.
Oh and after that he said that my insurance premiums are going to pay for “the middle class” and apparently those “subsidies” that have made my health care affordable have been “going to insurance companies.” So by that thinking when he taxes my insurance at 40% I won’t be paying it, the insurance companies will.
to put together something of an update or report for you guys regarding my friend/exhusband who died a week ago today. Its so damn complicated and I dont want to write a book.
Right now its still mostly One Big Question Mark for many of his closest friends. Theres a couple of wrenches in the works though, and its just hard going. His son Z (who is about 33) is “next of kin” and he’s… well he’s a mess (they were close, adn thats a whole book by itself)… but I guess he is the only one who has any kind of official report. (NOte, Z was about 6 or 7 years old when I was with his dad)
The word came down that the Coroners have ruled it a suicide. Everyone I know, inner circle, including me, said NO WAY… and theres more to that, but we’re just trying to figure it out still.
The main wrench turns out to be that his Mom (she’s 80 something) accepts this ruling. Somehow … its hard to comprehend, but to her, its more acceptable than an idea of something that involved violence, aggression, resistance. She’s twisted it into something somehow this is more peaceful, and she can accept this but not that. (whatever the hell “that” is)
Total cognitive dissonence. His 8 (!) siblings are doing their best to respect and take care of Mom. Understandable, but…
A cluster of his friends (+me) are screaming: no, we have to get to the truth, whatever that turns out to be. But it just doesnt add up to suicide. First off, he just wouldnt. But also… some info we do know. No note. No wallet, but yes cell phone and five bucks. His glasses were found on his nightstand by friends, just the other day. And he had been making plans for any number of projects and other stuff.
I said right off the bat that the Police were treating this like he was some nobody vagrant bum etc and had no idea that he is a significant figure within the art community here (the outlaw-ish one anyway)… and so on.
I was pretty much in a fog for 3 or 4 days, felt like someone had punched me in the gut, but Im way better now and just trying to figure out the best way for me to help the situation. My biggest concern at this point is for his son… who has been… well, as best I can tell, he had the family descend on him and hover for a week, and they are all saying Yes it was suicide so I dont know if he’s even had teh important talks that we have had with one another (the inner circle) and so no wonder he’s a wreck.
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which means husband and daughter have the whole week off. Also … spring cleaning and gorgeous weather! Ill be here off and on, as time permits.
“by as much as 3000%.” Did I mishear him or did I misunderstand something in 8th grade mathematics?
But that’s what he said about employer provided health care.
Oh and after that he said that my insurance premiums are going to pay for “the middle class” and apparently those “subsidies” that have made my health care affordable have been “going to insurance companies.” So by that thinking when he taxes my insurance at 40% I won’t be paying it, the insurance companies will.
to put together something of an update or report for you guys regarding my friend/exhusband who died a week ago today. Its so damn complicated and I dont want to write a book.
Right now its still mostly One Big Question Mark for many of his closest friends. Theres a couple of wrenches in the works though, and its just hard going. His son Z (who is about 33) is “next of kin” and he’s… well he’s a mess (they were close, adn thats a whole book by itself)… but I guess he is the only one who has any kind of official report. (NOte, Z was about 6 or 7 years old when I was with his dad)
The word came down that the Coroners have ruled it a suicide. Everyone I know, inner circle, including me, said NO WAY… and theres more to that, but we’re just trying to figure it out still.
The main wrench turns out to be that his Mom (she’s 80 something) accepts this ruling. Somehow … its hard to comprehend, but to her, its more acceptable than an idea of something that involved violence, aggression, resistance. She’s twisted it into something somehow this is more peaceful, and she can accept this but not that. (whatever the hell “that” is)
Total cognitive dissonence. His 8 (!) siblings are doing their best to respect and take care of Mom. Understandable, but…
A cluster of his friends (+me) are screaming: no, we have to get to the truth, whatever that turns out to be. But it just doesnt add up to suicide. First off, he just wouldnt. But also… some info we do know. No note. No wallet, but yes cell phone and five bucks. His glasses were found on his nightstand by friends, just the other day. And he had been making plans for any number of projects and other stuff.
I said right off the bat that the Police were treating this like he was some nobody vagrant bum etc and had no idea that he is a significant figure within the art community here (the outlaw-ish one anyway)… and so on.
I was pretty much in a fog for 3 or 4 days, felt like someone had punched me in the gut, but Im way better now and just trying to figure out the best way for me to help the situation. My biggest concern at this point is for his son… who has been… well, as best I can tell, he had the family descend on him and hover for a week, and they are all saying Yes it was suicide so I dont know if he’s even had teh important talks that we have had with one another (the inner circle) and so no wonder he’s a wreck.
anyway…