I used to hate Valentine’s Day. It seemed like an excuse for people in relationships to flaunt them to raise themselves over the people who weren’t. And at the time, be a transwoman, there did not seem to be any relationship in my future, near or far.
I was married to a woman for nearly 25 years when I came out. Beginning transition completely destroyed that relationship.
Life goes on and I was pretty sure that it would go on with me being alone. I resolved to adjust to that. About the time I thought I had, I was contacted by a woman who read my submissions to an email list and wanted to get to know me better. She was teaching English to the Japanese near Tokyo, so it was a very long distance friendship…which grew into a long distance romance and thence to a long distance relationship (LDR).
I wrote a poem about that.