We are in a new era. For eight years we have been able to Blame Bush. We have been able to assign all of our fears and all that is wrong to him.
But now….we are alone. We have no one to blame. Unless you want to blame Obama for being imperfect in trying to respond to the world he has been left.
We were united by opposition to Bush….what unites us now?
We have no clear single scapegoat now…..and we are facing a TRULY scary future without one. Financial collapse and Climate Change are here and they are real and they are incredibly scary. That fear makes us angry and makes us cranky and without a scapegoat….we have to face both the future…and our fear…head on.
Try as we might, there is little that we can do as individuals to change this.
Yet the fear that it engenders and the reality it portends won’t go away.
That leaves us three choices. We can give in to the fear and either lash out at others, or hide away… or we can band together to work with and support each other. Though it may not seem so on the surface, this is indeed a very hard choice. Perhaps the hardest thing there is. Fear of the unknown is one of the most powerful forces we know. It is in fact responsible for the entire Conservative Movement…who are SO afraid of change and the future…that they seek to stop it.
We can give in to the fear and either lash out at others, or hide away… or we can band together to work with and support each other. Hiding won’t keep you safe from the future. And lashing out only serves to drive us apart. Often to drive away from us the very people we need, like, or love. Because they are the easiest and closest targets when we lash out.
Can we really, in these times, afford to indulge our destructive impulses towards bickering, finding fault and blaming others for our fears and frustrations? Or can we find a way to overcome and overlook the relatively small transgressions of like minded others in order to find a way to come together?
Ok sure, that makes sense in and on its own merits. Except for when we get REALLY pissed!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And then we ask (unconsciously, where most if not all of our reactions are born) Join together how? With whom? Where? And we unconsciously, as we are programmed by evolution and society to do…look for a leader. A classic scenario then unfolds. People are afraid, they look for someone to tell them that everything will be alright. They put their faith in this leader, deposit all of their fears and hopes on that leader….and they feel better.
Until that leader does something…or says something….or DOESN”T say something….that they don’t like.
Then they proceed to tear that leader down, Then their OTHER programming, the programming of rebelling against authority kicks in (which tends to be high amongst thinking creative people who can read history and see the perfidy and betrayal of leader after leader) and they destroy that leader. It happens again and again. Cycles of programming, impulse/reaction and fear bring people together into groups and civilizations…and then destroy them. And then we wonder, as we are tearing the latest celebrity or political or group leader to shreds….why their are no leaders anymore.
In order to face the incredibly serious challenges we are up against, we have to change these cycles. We have to learn to control our impulses and respond not react. We have to be responsible for our own hopes and fears and not assign them to some leader. We have to stop lashing out at the smallest of disagreements and letting our fear and frustration blow them up into “The Most Important Thing In The World.”
Even while the world is burning around us.
How the fuck are we ever going to get anywhere if we allow ourselves to do that?
Over and over and over.
Now, to take the macro down to the micro….us. Docudharma.
These are NOT conventional times. You are not conventional people. And as much as people seem to want me to be, I am not a conventional “leader.” Even if I wanted to be…..that model does not work. And I will not do something that does not work. (Even though I am tempted by the power involved…..which is a damn good reason for me NOT to be one)
I am an equal.
Sometimes I lead, sometimes I don’t….sometimes I can’t. I am not perfect, I don’t have all the answers and I have no more idea of WTF we should do than you do, most of the time. I am smart, yes, but so are you. I am somewhat charismatic, but so are you. I can be a leader, but so can you.
The one thing I do know is that the old way does not work. And so we cannot do things the old way. Which means that we need a new way.
A way that we invent together.
A way to join together, without the traps of the past ensnaring us.
Every moment of everyday, with every breath we take.
That is scary, and hard, and a LOT of work.
But what else do you have to do?
What else will transform…and save… the world?
Joining together, cooperating, is the only way we will make it. It is a LONG way from the world, the country and the blogs we are in now to there. As we walk into the future, we need to grow and change with each step, become the change we NEED to see with each step. We need to get over the obstacles in that road and stop falling into the potholes we find along the way and play in the mud.
The time to start walking is….as always… now.