On The Day of the Dead

(8 am. – promoted by ek hornbeck)

At some point every Halloween since 2006, I find myself going back and reading an essay by one of my favorite bloggers, Madman in the Marketplace, titled Dia De Los Muertos. Since it gives me such a jolt of inspiration every time, I hope Madman won’t mind if I share alot of it with you today.

First of all, a little background on the Day of the Dead from wiki:

Though the subject matter may be considered morbid from the Anglo Saxon perspective, Mexicans celebrate the Day of the Dead joyfully, and though it occurs at the same time as Halloween, All Saints’ Day and All Souls Day, the traditional mood is much brighter with emphasis on celebrating and honoring the lives of the deceased, and celebrating the continuation of life; the belief is not that death is the end, but rather the beginning of a new stage in life.

Madman asks us to remember those who came before us…to celebrate their lives and contributions.

Our luminaries are only representatives of vast numbers of people most of us might never know by name, unless they were the grandfather who told you stories of old strikes, of meals of crusty toast with chipped beef gravy on top while sitting at his knee. Perhaps another who sat at an old formica kitchen table with tales of the struggle against the Bureau of Indian Affairs and the mission schools, or stories related at family get-togethers of sitting at the back of the bus, grandmothers who remembered having no opportunity to pursue their own dreams because of their gender. Maybe your forebearers told stories of shame and having to hide who they loved, or the pressure to hide the fruits of having loved, of being spirited away to give birth in shame.

THIS Dia De Los Muertos, remember their struggles, but remember their COMMUNITY. Remember that unlike the right, unlike the worshippers of division and death, we can look back with joy and fondness at people who sang and danced and loved and communed DESPITE their struggles, despite the exploitation, the hatred, the discrimination and fear. They formed communities, they formed unions, they formed sewing circles and barn raisings and volunteer organizations. They rallied with their neighbors, mended fences, found common ground with NEW neighbors different from themselves. It’s easy to remember the nativists, the klansmen, the misogynists and gay bashers and jingoists and bundists … but also remember that there were ALWAYS good people opposing them, forging bonds, talking and working together to build a brighter, broader, more inclusive future. While there were slavers, there were abolitionists. When other men jeered and sniped, remember there were women who reminded others that a woman was every bit the equal of a man and should have a voice, and there were sons who listened to them.

Celebrate the artists, the writers, the musicians and performers who forged bonds between different groups of people, who showed us all that it’s okay to be different, that different can be wonderful and exciting. Remember that every time that culture tried to expand our ties, broaden our conversations, help us see the world anew, the authoritarian minded tried to silence them, ban them, attack them, but over time the artists prevailed. From the churches and the juke joints, the beer halls and the smokey bars, from the salons to the corner table at the Algonquin, from coffee houses to underground clubs … we can remember fondly those who found beauty and strength in the everyday and in the sublime and IN EACH OTHER. THIS Dia De Los Muertos, read their words, sing their songs, dance to their tunes, enjoy their paintings and sculptures and their videos. Remember that no matter how loudly, how violently, how insistently those afraid of openness and sharing and difference and change tried to stop it, the songs got sung, the rugs got cut, the words got read.

He ends the essay, reminding us of how we can best show our appreciation and carry on the commitment to community.

We can and will prevail, we will find a way to become a font for peace again. It doesn’t matter how you add to the struggle, it not necessary for all of us to become politicians or full-time activists. You can help those who do that vital work by volunteering for them, or donating to them, or by merely talking to your neighbors, chatting with the frightened and cowed who you encounter in your daily life. Smile and quietly talk back to those who spread hate and fear. We are where we are because those with no faith in humanity TALKED TO EACH OTHER, and refused to compromise. We can do the same, because we believe in community, not division, and in community there comes strength.  The fight, the struggle, the great human show continues, and throughout history given time and perserverance it has been the cultivators, not the extractors, who have brought beauty, peace and prosperity to the world. Over the next couple of days, remember them fondly, and let those memories inform your choices as we face the struggles ahead.

What a legacy we have to build on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Let’s celebrate and pass it on!!


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  1. music, stories, art from those who’ve paved the way, please share so we can celebrate!

    • Robyn on November 1, 2008 at 03:01

  2. Randy California

  3. I’d like to celebrate is my friend Pat who died a few years ago of lung cancer. She was one of those very special unsung heroes – at least in my life.

    Pat loved to cook, sew, create, give, nurture people. As she was undergoing treatment, some of us took turns taking dinner to share with her. I always looked forward to my turn because Pat and I would sit and talk the night away.

    What I will always remember about her is that I would share some thought of mine with her and after listening intensely she’d respond by saying “tell me more.”

    I’d like to grow up to be more like Pat.  

    • kj on November 1, 2008 at 16:33

    over by Madman’s piece. best thing i’ve read in forever. you’ve got a great eye for great writers, NL!  wow!

  4. First this:

    Then this:

    Feliz Dia de los Muertos!

  5. And it was the same concept: a joyous celebration of our beloved dead, and an invitation for them to join us at the table and around the fire for the evening. We sat around at dinner last night and invited a couple of special loves ones to come calling.  

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