(11 am. – promoted by ek hornbeck)
I am straight and my gay culture/history knowledge is limited to a few childhood friends who were gay, going to a few gay pride parades because the parties afterward were excellent, I know who Harvey Milk is and I know about Stonewall.
But I just can’t give progressives a pass on this one. I can’t. I can’t tell gay/lesbian/transgendered Americans to “wait and be patient” and explain to them that their rights are not a priority. I do not know what it is like to face the hatred and oppression that gay Americans and those across the world who are gay must face.
For how long are gay Americans supposed to be patient? For how long should straight folks expect them to support other priorities on the progressive mystical agenda while getting nothing in return? For how long are gay Americans expected to be “reasonable” with their demands? For how long are they supposed to pretend that inequality is alright as long as we (the straight folks) “accept” them? Do we think that is all gays want? Do we think gays are just happy not to get beat up every five minutes ( which really still happens )as a measure of our so called “toleration and progress”. Progressive hesitation is starting to sound like liberal racism ” oh I have a black/gay/person who is different friend” therefore I pass the “test.” And yes, I have trotted out my black friends in stories to prove I am somehow “less racist” than other Americans.
The only good thing about the proposition in Arkansas that prevents unmarried people from being adoptive or foster parents is that it hits straight people and gay people hard. Maybe it will make the straight folks go hmmmmmmm. Or not, I don’t know.
I do know this: I am sorry. Gays and transgendered folks are Americans, they work, they play, they have hopes and fears, and children, and dogs, and cats and parrots, they like sports or hate them, they pay taxes, some might even like hockey. They are us and we are them. Americans have liberty or equality or they don’t. Until the gay and transgendered community can adopt, foster, marry, and get benefits without having to fight court battles we are not all equal. We cannot all pursue the right to happiness and we are not this great and wonderful nation. We are less than what we could be and we are settling for less than what we could be. We say we want change but we want the gay and transgendered community to wait and be nice an accept assurances and be placated. We don’t want them to get angry at us, the straight folks.
At this point I want to just ban marriage. Fuck it. Seriously. Or turn it back over to the churches and watch straight people get enraged because they don’t qualify for some obscure reason due to church teachings. Straight people need to feel the fire on this one and they don’t and that is the problem.
And it makes me feel helpless and very pissed off.