| I've been involved in enough flame wars, and I'm tired of them. Life is short and fragile. I have better things to do. People jump into my diaries and flame me, and more and more I don't even bother reacting. They're wastes of my time. They lie about me, they smear me, they hijack my threads with their petty personal agendas, and they're such tiny little people that I couldn't see them even if I used a microscope. If they could argue the substance, they would. Since they can't, they make it personal. More and more, I don't care.
I do care that I have discovered I can engage in meaningful dialogue with some people I hadn't expected to. I do care that while I may have intense arguments with some people on some issues, I can discover surprising layers of agreement on other issues. Even when they strongly and pointedly disagree with me on the issues, if they argue the issues, I know they are substantive people. And I welcome their engaging me on the issues. That's what interests me.
I write what I write at Daily Kos because I want to teach and learn and try to effect some movement on the issues. Those that care more about personalities than issues continually try to make it difficult. But they win only when I descend to their level. More and more, I try not to. And more and more, as I stated, I find that some are capable of genuine and genuinely respectful discourse. But what most frustrates me about some of you here who I consider ideological allies is that by getting dragged so much into the meta, by getting so entangled in it that you sometimes lose your own perspectives just as I once did and still occasionally do, you end up not being available to do what you do best, and what is needed most: engaging on the issues. Write about the issues. Prove yourselves right on the issues. Help the rest of us who are trying to fight for the issues.
Fuck the meta. The very small people win when you get caught up in the meta. They win whenever you waste time on the meta and on their bullshit. Do what you do best and you will be surprised to discover that some you hadn't expected to be are a lot closer to your viewpoints than you realize. Figure out who those are, and engage with them. Allow yourselves to be surprised. Leave the rest alone. Let them continually prove what they are about. It's their problems, not yours. It's their time, not yours. You don't need to call them out on it, because they prove what they are simply by being what they are. If you rise above, you will draw the contrast by so doing. But what really matters is that your time is better spent. We need you doing what you're capable of doing. Fuck the meta. Help us fight on the issues. |